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Perimenopause/Menopause

Menopause is a normal and natural, major life passage in a woman’s life.  It signifies the end of a woman’s reproductive years, and with it, the end of monthly menstrual periods. When a woman has stopped having periods for 12 consecutive months, she has reached final menopause and can no longer bear children. While most women reach menopause in their late 40’s or early 50’s, some go through it earlier or later than that. Often, menstruation does not end abruptly but may become erratic in the time leading up to final menopause. It is during this phase, leading up to menopause, that a woman finds herself in the transition known as perimenopause. A woman must use some form of contraception at this time to prevent pregnancy.

As menopause is reached, the female hormones estrogen and progesterone start to diminish leading to the following physical and emotional symptoms:

  • Hot Flashes
  • Breast Tenderness/Worsening of Premenstrual Syndrome
  • Decreased Libido (Sex Drive)
  • Fatigue/Mood Swings/Depression
  • Irregular Periods
  • Vaginal Dryness; discomfort during sex
  • Urine Leakage when coughing or sneezing
  • Urinary Urgency (a pressing need to urinate more frequently)
  • Changes in Memory and Concentration
  • Difficulty Sleeping
  • Dry Skin
  • Headaches
  • Mood Swings, Irritability, and Depression

Presently, there is no simple test to predict or confirm that a woman is in menopause.  It is possible, however, to determine one’s levels of the relevant hormones- estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, FSH and LH (and possibly DHEA and thyroid hormones), so a woman, and her health care provider, can better understand where she is at in her perimenopausal timeline and what approach to take regarding symptoms.

Hot Flashes

Hot flashes occur in more than two-thirds of women in the US during perimenopause and in nearly all women with premature or induced menopause.  A hot flash, also known as a hot flush, is a momentary sensation of heat that may be accompanied by a red, flushed face and sweating. It can also be accompanied by an increase in heart rate, nausea, tingling or crawling sensation of the skin. The cause of hot flashes is unknown, but it may be related to changes in a women’s circulation. Hot flashes occur when the blood vessels near the skin’s surface dilate, bringing increased blood flow and heat to the area.  This causes the red, flushed look to the face.  One might also perspire, as the body attempts to cool itself, and some women may experience a sudden chill following their hot flash.

Hot flashes vary from woman to woman: some women have them for months to years, while others have them for only a short period of time, or not at all.  Generally, hot flashes become less severe as time passes.

Hot flashes and sweating that occur at night are called night sweats, and they typically interfere with a woman’s sleep. Interestingly, many women find that they will experience night sweats sometime between 3:00 and 4:00am. While it may be impossible to avoid hot flashes during menopause, there are certain triggers that increase their frequency and intensity.  To prevent or diminish hot flashes, try to avoid the following:

  • Stress
  • Caffeine
  • Alcohol
  • Spicy Foods
  • Tight Clothing, Synthetic Fibers
  • Heat
  • Cigarette Smoke

There are other steps one can take to keep hot flashes to a minimum:

  • Stay cool! Keep bedroom temperatures cool at night and use fans during the day.
  • Try deep, slow abdominal breathing (6 to 8 breaths per minute). Practice deep breathing for 15 minutes in the morning, 15 minutes in the evening and at the onset of a hot flash.
  • Exercise daily.
  • Chill pillows; cooler pillows at night can be helpful.
  • Wear moisture-wicking sleepwear.

Explore non-prescription treatments such as:

  • Vitamin B complex
  • Vitamin E
  • Bioflavonoids with Vitamin C
  • Black Cohosh (an herb sold commonly under the trade name Remifemin)
  • A diet rich in organic soy foods, flaxseeds, vegetables and fiber

Headaches

Hormone fluctuation is often the reason for headaches during perimenopause and menopause, especially in women with a history of headaches during their menstrual cycle. Typically, these will stop once final menopause is reached. Many women have obtained relief from menopausal migraines through the use of a 2 percent progesterone cream.

Vaginal Dryness

Some women experience vaginal dryness as a result of falling levels of estrogen during perimenopause and menopause. This can make intercourse uncomfortable and un-pleasurable. Lack of vaginal lubrication, upon arousal, is the sign most commonly misconstrued by one or both partners as a lack of desire. This simple misunderstanding can cause both parties to pull back from initiating sexual contact.  

There are many steps one can take to assist with vaginal dryness:

  • Use a lubricant. The easiest and most effective method is using a good water-based lubricant.  Use it not only when having intercourse, but daily to nourish and maintain vaginal tissue.
  • Have sex more often. An increase in sexual activity can promote the production of estrogen, even in menopausal women.
  • Use an Estrogen Cream. Natural plant-based estrogen creams can be found in many health food stores.  These creams can be used simultaneously with a natural progesterone cream.  For higher doses, one’s medical doctor or naturopath can prescribe a compounded transdermal cream containing small doses of estrogen, progesterone or testosterone, individually or in combination.
  • Use Estriol. Bioidentical estriol is a type of natural estrogen, which, when applied topically, stimulates estrogen receptors in the vagina, increasing lubrication and plumping up tissues.  Effects on the rest of the body are minimal.  Studies suggest that this therapy may also help ward off urinary tract infections and improve incontinence.  Estriol is available as a suppository, tablets, or cream and requires a prescription; it is currently available only from a compounding pharmacy (one that will create customized drugs).

Decreased Libido (Sex Drive)

Although nearly everyone goes through at least one phase of low desire in their lifetime, women are two to three times more likely than men to be affected, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. A drop in testosterone at this time can adversely affect libido, as can the decline in estrogen. Diminished estrogen levels can cause atrophy, or thinning, of the vaginal tissue making sexual intercourse a dreaded activity. Exhaustion of the adrenal glands, brought on by stress, lack of sleep, improper diet, smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and even some medications, further compounds the problem. The following are of great benefit in helping to restore libido:

  • The use of natural lubricants
  • The nutritional supplement DHEA (a testosterone precursor)
  • Nutritional and herbal support to enhance restful sleep and nourish the adrenal glands
  • Stress management (i.e. meditation, yoga, light exercise, etc.)
  • A high-fiber diet rich in organic soy, phytonutrients (found in vegetable and fruits) and flaxseeds
  • Avoidance of sugar, wheat and fried, packaged or processed foods

If these measures fall short of expectations, it may be advisable to consult with a medical doctor or naturopath to explore the possibility of bioidentical hormone replacement.

When inhibited desire is a constant issue that cannot be explained by physical factors, the causes are often related to unresolved personal and relationship issues. It is not uncommon for people in long-term relationships to suffer from low sexual desire. They can fall into ruts and routines that may leave them feeling uninspired and disinterested.  A couple can grow apart because one or both has neglected the relationship. Relationships need rejuvenation, attention and maintenance in order to allow intimacy and passion to flourish.

Also, couples today are busier than ever. It can be quite challenging to juggle the demands of running a household, raising children, one’s career, aging parents, and a busy social life, not to mention occasional illness or adversity.  Many people barely get through each day doing everything they have to, let alone finding time for pleasure and intimacy.  It is precisely this lack of time for self-care that often underlies the lack of sexual desire.

Here are 10 Steps to Help Increase Intimacy from the renowned book Sex Over 50 by Joel D. Block, Ph.D.:

  • Touch each other more frequently by just holding hands and giving hugs.
  • Set aside non-sexual, one-on-one time for each other. Set up date nights, exercise together, and try to get to know each other as interesting people again.
  • Agree to not make sexual frequency a control issue. The partner who wants more sex will agree to refrain from being overly seductive or demanding. The less interested partner agrees to let the other know when he or she is feeling desirous.
  • Don’t expect your partner to gratify all of your sexual desires. Fantasize and indulge your sensuous nature.
  • Don’t expect your partner to be responsible for turning you on.  If your libido is low, encourage and nurture your sexual fantasies.  Give yourself more sensuous treats, such as clothing that feels luxurious against your skin.
  • Separate sex from romance.  Have you stopped being romantic due to fear that a romantic gesture will be construed as a sexual invitation?  Romance can, but does not have to, be a prelude to sex.  It can be an end in itself.
  • Speak freely. Be specific about how often you feel desire, what it feels like to you and what initiates and enhances those feelings.
  • Examine your issues. Do you have unexpressed resentment towards your partner?  Unresolved anger?  A low level of desire could also reflect a lack of optimism, enthusiasm or passion in your life in general.
  • Make a non-demand sex date with your partner. You can be sexual without having intercourse or achieving orgasm.  It may be enough to hold and stroke each other. Or perhaps the partner with less desire would enjoy bringing the other to orgasm.
  • Move straight to arousal. You don’t have to feel desire to experience arousal.  A man who thinks he has no interest in lovemaking can get an erection when stimulated by his partner.  Being aroused does not mean you have to complete a sex act.  Like romance, it can be an end in itself. 

Memory & Concentration Change

Many women report they have trouble concentrating, are forgetful, and have bouts of “fuzzy thinking” during perimenopause/menopause. This is not unlike the memory and concentration changes often experienced post-partum, only instead of giving birth to a baby, the woman is giving birth to a whole new sense of self.  Herbs like Ginkgo biloba and St. John’s wort can help with mental clarity. A diet low in simple carbohydrates will help stabilize blood sugar levels to promote enhanced concentration.

Mood Swings, Lack of Energy, Depression and Anxiety

Up to 43% of women complain of low energy throughout perimenopause and up to two years after final menopause. They may also report an increase in the emotional agitation and volatility they felt with their periods. Part of the reason for irritability and moodiness is hormonal, but it may also be the body’s way of signaling the need for spiritual growth as the maternal role takes a back seat to let inner wisdom and intuition emerge. Simultaneously, the stress of aging parents, teenagers and empty nest syndrome may be contributing factors. It is at this time that one particularly needs to start focusing on creating balance. Some helpful suggestions are:

  • Meditating, practicing yoga, tai chi, etc.
  • Finding an exercise that is enjoyable enough to be done consistently
  • Spending time outdoors in nature
  • Keeping a gratitude journal
  • Taking up a new hobby or a passionate pursuit abandoned long ago
  • Sharing feelings with a trusted friend or talking with a therapist

Reference: http://www.menopause.org/for-women/sexual-health-menopause-online

Related links:

Beauty Products May Trigger Early Menopause

Informative Videos on Menopause from the International Menopause Society

Help With Your Hot Flash (infographic)

MedAmour — Solutions for Intimate Wellness